Needs & Requests

Needs
As I mentioned before every feeling has a need underneath it. In order to have a conscious communication even in a negative content, we have to connect with our feelings and needs in order to be conscious of our feelings and understand from which need our feelings derive or connect to the other person's feelings and needs as they are currently expressed in order to understand other person's needs and feelings.

Accepting responsibility for our feelings rather than blaming others for our feelings. When we express our feelings with responsibility it is easier for others to respond compassionately.

Requests
Asking for action for our needs. But these are not demands, the other person may not do it. Demands has consequences but requests does not have. The easiest way to determine is to answer no to an asked action, if the counter answer is stating a consequence than the first question was a demand. Request must be clear with positive action language.