I generally thought that feedback either positive or negative, and giving positive feedback is a good thing for the receiver. Today we learned that it is not the case. First of all there are many kinds of feedback but most important is that does feedback makes sense or not. Feedback should include observations also, what happen to me while you were delivering the task, what I needed. In other words; actions taken to increase well- being of the organization, feelings for fulfilling the needs, and needs that are fulfilled. In order to a feedback to be more effective judgement should be eliminated-as in the earlier posts mentioned-
Also there are some issues to be considered;
Praising work, not people
Make praise as specific as possible
Being genuine and unconditional
Avoiding praise that sets up competition- meaning praising someone in private. I experienced public praise and it was uncomfortable for me, and I was an intern and the other person with us was a full-time worker there.
I mentioned that it is important to not judge others in relationship before, I found an interesting example on Facebook. An African tribe does the most beautiful thing.
When someone does something hurtful and wrong, they take the person to the center of town, and the entire tribe comes and surrounds him.
For two days they'll tell the man every good thing he has ever done.
The tribe believes that every human being comes into the world as Good, each of us desiring safety, love, peace, happiness.
But sometimes in the pursuit of those things people make mistakes. The community sees misdeeds as a cry for help.
They band together for the sake of their fellow man to hold him up, to reconnect him with his true Nature, to remind him who he really is, until he fully remembers the truth from which he'd temporarily been disconnected:
Authority is an complex element of work places. People in authority are abusing their power in order to make their subordinates do what they want. But authority shouldn't be like this, employees should have freedom for the tasks that they should do, they may figure out a simpler way to do something when they are autonomous in order to do this, work environment needs to have trust between co-workers and between bosses and employees, other than trust, respect is needed. Respect requires non-judgement. I think our generation will not tolerate power abusive bosses, we would need our space to create and work, we would probably stick to our morals more, even our boss asks something against it.
Giusseppe showed us very interesting TED Talk of Itay Talgam
When we have a negative respond to our request we have to listen for reasons why their answer was "no" and what is preventing them to say "yes", we have to empathize with them first, than persuade. Manipulation is not a part of conscious communication because a change in a person should be willingly. Manipulation is a reason for distrust.
Empathy is "beauty of being understood", I never heard such a good way to describe empathy.
Another description is to compassionate understanding of one's own world. Empathy is crucial in order to understand one's feelings and needs, it is an important element of conscious communication, I mentioned empathy before. If we develop ourselves to be more emphatic, we can control our emotions more. For example; if a friend angers us before yelling, if we question his/hers feelings and needs, we can avoid the negative experiences.
